How To Know What A Guy Wants – My Story

Posted on February 19, 2011 by Mandy Leave a comment

I am writing this post as a woman very much in love with a guy who I believe to be my sole mate. We have recently got engaged and are planning to get married next year.

…However, it wasn’t always like this for me.

I know, as somebody who has had plenty of FAILED relationships, low points and heart-ache with men what YOU must be thinking right now. “I will NEVER find Mr. Right – There MUST be something wrong with me”.

Click here to visit the official website of Michael Fiore’s ‘The Secret Survey’ and discover what ALL men want you to know but could NEVER tell you…

I know because I use to feel the same way, and couldn’t understand why all my friends were in serious relationships with great guys and I wasn’t. Was it me, was it bad luck or simply that I hadn’t met the right guy yet? Truth be told, it was a combination of all three, I just hadn’t realized it.

What follows is my personal story of how I turned my hapless love life around. It worked for me and I think it will work for YOU.

How to know what a guy wants?

No matter how hard I tried I just couldn’t do anything right with men. I always tried to be patient and gracious, but the few guys I did date long term NEVER appreciated me or become less interested the longer our relationship went on. The more I tried to please them the more distant they seemed to become.

After the painful breakup of my last relationship I realized I must be doing something BADLY wrong and sought the advice of my girlfriends. They all told me, it wasn’t my fault and that I would soon meet a great guy, I just had to keep on looking for Mr. Right.

Months past and I was still no nearer to finding my sole mate. In desperation I turned to the Internet and bought several books from relationship experts who claimed to hold ‘The Secrets’ of how to know what a guy wants, and how to make any relationship work.

To be fair some of the books were okay, but most were pure garbage. They were either totally outdated or the techniques they taught just didn’t work. Well, they didn’t for me anyway.

Looking back, this was probably the lowest I have ever felt, but ironically, it was also my turning point too…

You see, I hadn’t realized at the time, but all the advice I had followed before was written by women for women. If you think about it, how can a woman honestly know what a man thinks or indeed wants from a relationship? Let alone write a book on the subject…

It just doesn’t make sense does it?

What I needed was a fresh approach, something new and written from a man’s point of view.

It was then that I stumbled upon something that changed my life, and I want to share it will you right now. It’s a book by a chap named Michael Fiore, called “The Secret Survey“.  Michael has been a relationship expert for over 17 years and really knows his stuff. Being a guy himself he knows exactly what a man is looking for in a woman, and more importantly he knows the secrets to a long and loving relationship.

However, “The Secret Survey” may not be suitable for everyone…

You HAVE to realize that as the woman YOU will be the one following the techniques in the book. You will be the one who needs to implement the methods he teaches for it to work.

Whether, your goal is to get-out-of-a-rut, repair a failing relationship or to find a man to spend the rest of your life with. If you’re NOT happy taking the lead-role then I suggest you look elsewhere.  All I can say is that the simple techniques Michael Fiore teaches WORKED for me and I’m sure they can for YOU too.

I have no doubt, that without his help I would NEVER have met Steve, my sole mate. I just wish I had met him earlier that’s all.

Thank you Michael for everything…

Click here to visit the official website of Michael Fiore’s ‘The Secret Survey’ and discover what ALL men want you to know but could NEVER tell you…

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3 Tips to Finding The Right Guy

Posted on February 18, 2011 by Mandy Leave a comment

To Find the Right Guy You First Need to Find Yourself

1) Start by analyzing the type of person you are.  Finding the right guy will not magically transform you into a different person, so if you don’t like what you have become, set about making some lifestyle changes to become the women you wish you were.

Think about it, a hard working attentive guy is unlikely to be attracted to a lazy, selfish women.  Imagine your ideal guy, what values and aspirations does he hold?  What does he look like?  Once you have built up a profile, set about changing your character defects and outlook on life to match your ideal man’s.  Above all else, learn to be happy with yourself.  If you are not, a new relationship will not make you feel any better.

Be the Women He Can Be Proud Of

2) How you appear to men is important.  Obviously, we’re not all born to be a catwalk queen or feature in a glossy magazine.  However, we ALL should have a feature that we like about ourselves.  You need to learn to live with the bits you can’t change and accentuate the areas you like.  For me, I hate my nose, but people have commented on my eyes, so I do my best to accentuate them.

If you’re overweight, set about losing a few pounds.  Not because you should do so to attract the right kind of man; although it may help.  No, you should lose the weight for yourself, as ultimately it will make YOU feel better, and if you feel good about yourself on the inside then everyone will see the transformation on the outside.

Always wear clothes that flatter your figure and accentuate your best bits.  If you’re a size 14 don’t try to squeeze into a size 12, it’ll look terrible.  Accept who you are, the size you are, and be happy in your own skin.  Remember, most men prefer women to have a little bit of meat on them, although that’s not an excuse to live like a slob.  Men want to be proud of their partners figure and appearance, not embarrassed by them.

How to Know What a Guy Looks For in a Woman

3) What you should be asking yourself isn’t how to know what a guy wants in a woman, but what YOU are looking for in a man.  If you know what you want from a guy, and you find it, then there’s every chance that a relationship with him will be a successful one.

Whereas, if you try to change yourself into something you’re not to attract a guy, then you ultimately will be UNHAPPY and the relationship will be short lived.  Be honest with yourself, know what you want from a man, and set about finding him.

Think about where you want to be in 10 years time.  Do you want kids? to be married?  There’s no right answer, the point is that you find a guy with the same view to life as you.

Do not date a guy with a completely different outlook thinking you will be able to change him.  You won’t, it’s a dangerous game and you haven’t got the time to waste with guy who will NEVER be on the same page as you.  Why risk more heartache further down the road?

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3 Secrets to Understanding Men

Posted on February 17, 2011 by Mandy Leave a comment

You always hear men say “I can’t understand her” or “why are women so complicated”.  Whereas, any women who has been unlucky in love would give her right-arm to know what a guy wants and indeed what he is looking for in a relationship, and in his ideal women.

By nature, women are more quizzical than men and often wonder what guys actually want?  The trouble is, men by nature are much more reserved and tend to bury their feelings and emotions deep down.

So there lies a huge problem that we need to address.  If you can understand how a man thinks then you can preempt problems before they actually occur.

I think I could now write a book on the huge differences between men and women that I didn’t think existed before I created my Blog, and indeed there are plenty of books available if you would like to learn more on this subject.

Let’s instead concentrate on some solid tips on how to know what a guy wants.  They will help you better understand men and give you some proven information that I hope you can put to good use?

1) Did you know men are more sensitive than women?  I know what you’re thinking, and I too thought the concept was totally stupid.  However, the proven fact is that men do not react well to emotional stress anywhere near as well as women do.

Due to this, men put up barriers to prevent themselves from getting hurt.  When you say to a man “You NEVER tell me what you’re thinking”, he interprets that as something that FORCES him to reveal his true feelings.  He will likely feel exposed and not know how to handle the vulnerable situation you have put him in.  He will act as if doesn’t care, but in reality, he’s just scared of showing his true feelings.

2) Men are more aggressive than women, but nonetheless hate fighting just the same.  When a man finds himself in a conflicting situation, by nature he sees the clash as a battle he must win.  However, winning is not always so black and white.

This is especially true if the argument is emotionally charged as most men will find it hard to control their true feelings, and will often just shut-up-shop so to speak (putting up an invisible barrier) as he is unable to control and relay his true emotions.  When this happens, he’s not deliberately trying to provoke you, by saying nothing; he just doesn’t know how to control his feelings.

3) Despite what you may have heard, most men do actually want to settle down and get married.  While it’s true that some men prefer the bachelor lifestyle more than others, after a while the novelty for most men will where off.

Why?  Nobody likes being on their own too long.  When it comes to settling down with the right man, trust is far more of an issue for a guy.  A man must be able to whole-heartedly trust you in any situation.  If he feels that he can’t rely on you for the most simplest of things, then he is unlikely to want to lay any firm roots.  You may be surprised to know that trust is equally as important to a man as looks.

Hopefully you can put these relationship tips to good use.  They helped me, and I think they can help you too.

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I Always Seem to Date Losers

Posted on February 17, 2011 by Mandy Leave a comment

Are you the kind of girl who always seems to attract the wrong guy?  You know, the bad boys, the men that WILL always break your heart?  There’s no shame in admitting it, I was once that girl too, until I read something from a relationship doctor that completely changed my outlook to attracting men.

Before we start let’s quantify the typical loser man, the type of man you should always steer-clear of, just incase you are in any doubt. He’ll be completely into himself and have the ability to sweet-talk you at will.

He will make you feel like you’re the only women in the world.  Don’t be fooled, all this attention is an attempt to sweep you of your feet and into bed as quickly as possible.  These types of men can be very persuasive and are interested in ONE thing only.

At the start of a relationship, or what you believe to be a relationship, these sorts of guys appear perfect. They are attentive and loving.  However, as soon as they get what they want, they become distant, break dates or NEVER call back.  This is because they’ve got what they wanted and have moved on to the next women. Don’t fall for this kind of guy as he will only break your heart.

So, if it is so easy to spot men of this nature, why do so many women get suckered in?

I mean, you don’t suddenly wake up one morning and think to yourself; today I’m going to find a guy that I want to break my heart.  So what’s going on?  What normally happens is that we get to know a guy but almost instantly get blinkered between reliability and intensity.

For example, you date a guy who makes you FEEL amazing, and it’s all very exciting.  You can’t help but think that he must be a good man.  It isn’t that you are a poor judge of character, it is because your feelings are being clouded with intense emotions, which ultimately causes your sub-consciousness to ignore any warning signs that otherwise you would spot at a moments notice.

By not letting your emotions run away will you you’ll be able to attract the right kind of guy who is both exciting and dependable, and spot loser men a mile off.

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